Okay, so usually when I want to write a blog, I never do. However, when I polled Twitter this evening, and ladies were talking amongst each other, hardly anyone answered. I know, you don’t have to pay attention to everything that I say. Normally, you don’t. I’m assuming if I would have tagged Donnie in a tweet some where I may have gotten a response or recognition. We know that’s not going to happen any time soon.
There are more important things that I’d rather use Twitter to discuss than New Kids, American Idol and The Bachelor. Not saying that if you want to snark your way to spoilers for the West Coast you’re not “tweeting correctly”. It’s your Twitter, I don’t care what you do. I haven’t been active much lately in the Tweeting community due to my lack of anything to say that will actually bring an interest to my timeline. I don’t have New Kids news, I don’t watch East Coast feeds of reality TV shows and I haven’t downloaded Jordan’s single.
So! What did I tweet? I asked when the last time it was that the women who follow me had a “date” with themselves. Even some of the women that responded to me didn’t answer the question. Why did I ask this? Because I was watching a DVR’d show of Dr. Oz. He brought up talking about sex with your girlfriends was a good idea. They brought up masturbation.
This struck a chord with me. Not a nerve, mind you. But I was curious to see who would answer or who would respond and how they would. Well, three people answered the question and did a couple of tweets giving some detail about it. (Not personal detail just like, oh hey me! type of thing). Others probably rolled their eyes at me and didn’t respond. Then I did get a couple of other responses but they were more of the “oh, you again” type.
Oh, me again? There Feisty goes, talking about sex.
Is sex important to me? Yes. Should it be important to you? Yes. It’s important for your health; mental and physical. If you’re not having sex you may want to evaluate why. If you’re single and are pickier about penises than shoes, then well, there’s your answer. And that’s fine! Be picky because once one fuckin’ lands you it’s hard to get rid of them ;). If you have a partner and you’re not having sex with them, take a few steps back and ask yourself why. Do you want to? Does he make you feel sexy? Is it really his job to make you feel sexy? Do you ever compliment him? Do you make him feel sexy so he repays the favor? Do you do anything to make yourself sexy? Say something, give a look? Respond to his touch?
Sex, sex, sex. Sure. It’s important for your relationship. Yadda, yadda. But the most important sex you’ll have is with yourself.
Some answered that when they feel the mood they run to the bathroom, get off and go about their day. That’s healthy, in my opinion. Yeah, there have been times where I’m not home and it’s like… WHOA body, NOW? I take care of it, move on. Sometimes you just can’t control it. Those are the quickies that are more about self-satisfaction than self-discovery or self-love.
The type of masturbation that I’d wish more women would engage in is a total and complete date with themselves. It may be planned or you might find yourself with the kids asleep early, husband working late, boyfriend away. Maybe you’re single and no one is home. Roommate is gone, parents are on vacation or out to a movie. Well, shit. There’s time to fill. You can sit for two hours on Twitter and sure, that’s entertaining (big eye roll here) or you can put the electronics away (except one special friend), run a bath, light a candle and go to town on yourself.
Honestly? I’d rather spend the time with myself than talking about the same thing again and again- another night spent on a social network. Is the laundry done? Guess what? It’ll still be there when you’re finished with yourself. Dishes in the sink? They’ll be there again. Let something go and let yourself go for once.
Now, before I go into what you could do to have the night with yourself, just a quick run-down of a few benefits of masturbation.
Masturbation helps prevent cervical infections and helps relieve urinary tract infections. The movements, the swelling, the liquid flow of your body will naturally introduce certain things to your body that promote cervical health. Healthy bacteria are able to be introduced while old fluid flushes from the system.
If you cramp a lot during menstruation, you may want to look into masturbation as a relief. The increased blood flow to the area can alleviate cramping and back pain caused by PMS. Of course, you can be messy but the wonderful thing about being a woman, we have two spots you can stimulate. Some of us don’t even need direct contact so if that’s you, give a whirl the next time you have cramps.
Masturbation can help work against insomnia through hormonal and tension release. Instead of popping dangerous sleeping pills or trying to drink a half a bottle of wine before you go to bed to get to sleep, try exhausting yourself the more enjoyable way.
If you’ve had a child or have a weak pelvic floor, guess what can help strengthen that? Orgasms. And who can probably give you the best orgasms of your life? Yourself. During climax, your uterus lifts off the pelvic floor and pulsates. That’s muscle tension. The same thing happens when you lift weights. Muscles tense and release, you’re working them out. Same idea. I’m sure you get it. Especially if you cough or sneeze in a sitting position and UH OH! Yeah. Masturbation can help you out.
The last physical benefit I want to touch upon is KNOW YOUR BODY. By touching yourself and knowing what is going on down there you will be able to notice a difference first. How often do you go to the gynecologist? How often are you supposed to go? Do you go? Once a year? Twice a year? Is twice a year even enough to go get an exam from someone who doesn’t know what you looked like two weeks ago? Are they going to feel you up? No. They’re going to open you up, take a swab and ask if you have any questions.
By spending time with yourself you can become familiar with your body. If you feel something, smell something, fuck it, taste something different (some people are into it, don't "eww" we're all adults), you will know first. So many women rely on their doctors to tell them what is wrong and sorry, ladies? That just may be too late. Who do you think finds a tumor on a testicle first. A doctor? Or the man that gets down with himself every other day? I’ve known three guys with a tumor on a testicle and guess who found it? THEM. If you slide your fingers up in yourself and feel something out of the ordinary you’ll know you need to make a phone call; and you should.
Okay. So that was medical. I don’t give statistics, you can Google some of the stuff that I’ve talked about. Google medical benefits for masturbation if you want to read further about medical jargon.
I do want to post a blog about the more sensual side of this topic, I do. But I want to post this first. Think about some of the things that I mentioned. Google for yourself. Look into it and be ready for the next blog that I post. Very soon.
